Caz
The other day I was surfing around some of the blogs I follow and came across  some articles on The Innovative Educator  that really resonated with me about medication for ADHD children.  Just about anyone that has been reading my little blog (which granted, is not many people lol) knows that my little dude Frodo has been diagnosed with ADHD and SPD (sensory processing disorder).  He was in public school last year and he was really struggling in the classroom (and with bullies) due to his behaviour, and we were really struggling as well, to help him learn new ways of coping with this new environment.   Frodo was suspended twice in the 8odd months he was in school.. both times for things that were obvious reactions to the nastiness that schoolmates had inflicted on him.. but the school didn't care about that.   It was all about HIS behaviour and what we could do to 'help' him.

The first suspension was due to throwing a book... Frodo was eager to get to use the computer and the teacher told him to put away his materials first,  Frodo didn't want to because he knew he would miss out on one of the few computers in the class... he got a bit upset and the teacher told him to 'stop acting like a baby'.  Of course, the other students had a good old laugh at this and Frodo reacted accordingly by tossing his book down and mumbling shut up at the teacher (with friggin good reason in my opinion!)   

We got in to see the Paediatrician in June, and Frodo was officially diagnosed.  We had to come back for a testing appointment and  at that point agreed to try medication as an interim intervention to help him  maintain his behaviour while the school Guidance Officer worked her magic with behaviour plans and such.  The medication wasn't all bad, it did help... but what we found was that once the school was aware that he was medicated, their interest in working with him disappeared.  The magic pill was involved, no need for actual effort on their parts.  Frodo got no more help with learning to cope with the environment, his case was closed and the school gave up on him.. in my opinion anyway. 

Fast forward a few months and HIS behaviour has improved a lot... but he is bullied daily by other students, excluded and ridiculed often.  He hates school and never wants to go.. but doesn't say anything really because he  figures this is just how it is now.  He has more bad reactions to bullies and scores another suspension and finally, at the beginning of the last term is threatened with another.   He is a big ball of stress, the medications are affecting his sleep now (one night he was literally up until 3am) and his appetite is dwindling to nothing.  

Sadly, it took until that last suspension threat for me to realize that the school really did see the pills as the end of the discussion.  I withdrew Frodo and withdrew the tablets as well.  I realize that some children truly do need medication, ADHD can be just like any other medical condition... and if someone has  cancer or high blood pressure you don't with hold medication for it, right?   BUT, if your child has coeliac you don't just medicate it right off the bat either... and I think that's really the line that needs to be taken with children with ADHD and related disorders.  Other methods of helping them control their behaviours need to be tried FIRST... before resorting to medications that may have long lasting effects on our children.  Schools should NOT be pressuring parents into considering medication by implying that your child will fail and not learn (even during his worst phase at school, Frodo's grades were on par with the average students) 

Since Frodo has come back to home based learning, we have tailored his learning day and his environment so that he feels confident that he can get through each period without issue.  And he does, almost without fail.  It is amazing how much better his ability to focus is without 34 other students yammering on all over the place.  I lay out what we are going to accomplish for the week and he chooses the order in which we will do it... so if he's fidgety, he will choose to do something more hands on like some of his History Odyssey activities.... if he's overly hyper we'll go out for a walk and burn off some energy (and usually turn it into a science outing ;) Lots of cool learning opportunities on a walk) and come back to more table based activities later when he's calmer.   Obviously, schools can't cater to each student quite that much... but these things helped Frodo far more than 20mg of Ritalin a day did.   
Caz
So,  we were having a lovely day Thursday ... hubby was off work so we took Frodo to swap a game he bought that he didn't love and we thought we would hit the coffee shop for a drink.  We walked in and Frodo, who will normally cook up any excuse to go get an iced chocolate... says he doesn't want anything today.  Half jokingly I say, are you feeling ok?!?!  *click goes the light bulb over my head* WAIT... are you *feeling* ok????

He IS looking rather pale, with those tell tale dark circles under his eyes.  I put my hand on his head, *sigh* and sure enough he's rocking a nice little temp...  Hubby has a feel of his throat and OH YEAH, those babies are angry about something.  The poor kid JUST finished a double long round of antibiotics 2 weeks ago :(    Hubby suggests I call the doc when we get home... how sad is it that I know the docs number from memory?  I suppose you'd expect it as often as we've been in there the last few months.  One hour later we are sitting in the waiting room.

We saw a new doc, as Frodos' regular doc wasn't on that day.  New doc says that 4 cases in 4 months is just ridiculous (glad he agrees with me on that one) and that maybe it's time to start considering a referral to discuss removing these unruly things since they won't start sounding the alarm constantly over nothing of consequence.  He thinks that playing the 'it's affecting his behaviour (due to his adhd) card' along with the 'it's affecting his learning' card  that the surgeons will be flexible with their 6 cases in 1yr guideline.  YAY, about bloody time.

I know they don't LIKE to take them out now, and I know they ARE necessary parts of the immune system .. but only when they work like they are supposed to. I figure I've been fine since mine were removed at 6, so Frodo has got to be better off without all this illness.  He'll go on a wait list anyway, but at least the ball is rolling.

Tomorrow morning we pop back in for a follow up to see how his throat is looking, and hopefully the doc gives the go ahead fro him to go ahead to his classes.  Monday is our super fun day out and it would bite to miss another one!
Caz
Sadly we are not home the exciting, world traveling type home schoolers ;)  But here is a day in our life!

0550:  Awaked by Merry who is wanting to know if he can play with Sam's new toy (gift from nana, both younger boys insanely obsessed by it) GO back to bed is the reply, hide under covers for half an hour, vowing that tomorrow morning the door is to be locked by dh as he departs for work lol.

0700:  Get the schoolers all geared up in uniforms, make lunches etc.    Breaky all around, coffee for me .. that I never got to even touch *sigh*  Not a good sign for the day! lol

0830:  Put Frodo on T4L to work while I took the 2 schoolers to school (his teenage brother is home), came home & remade coffee while the kiddo finished his language arts online.  Hung out a load of laundry before getting started with other stuff.

0900ish:  Growl at real estate agent regarding our current leaky roof and useless builders :)  Ignore call from my boss, then leave him a msg on voicemail that I am not available until 2pm and to please call me then! (apparently sahm means you have nothing to do all day long)     Watch Math U See dvd lesson with Frodo, he does a couple of practice pages.

0945: History Odyssey time.  Today it's the Intro to Ancient Egypt history pocket which includes some vocabulary, some map work and some crafty stuff along with some reading.  Frodo decides we need to find his name in Hieroglyphs so that he can put that on the front of his History Pocket 'book' instead of English hehe.

1130:  Still at it, sidetracked by annoying big brother who came out of his cave for food lol.  Frodo checking out what a 'shaduf' is and how it works.  Frodo finishes up by doing a 'Summing it up' page for the pocket.
Frodo, deep in thought :)

1200:  Lunch... Frodo helps make what we called one eyed gypsies growing up (yeah, we weren't on the politically correct bandwagon back in the day lol)

1230:  Timez Attack!  Frodo is working hard on his times tables, he has struggled with them in school but is catching on pretty well now which will make future math SO much easier.  He spent about half an hour playing that and made it through the 4's level so I let him have about 15minutes on Luxor (marble matching/shooting game) to chill.

Timez Attack, BRILLIANT math program!  Ignore dh's messy desk lol
1pm:  Yesterday in his Science with Dr. Joe, he learned about friction and made a cool little climbing dude that uses friction to travel along a string so today we're watching Bill Nye the Science Guy's Friction episode. (we have about 100 episodes of Bill Nye,  my teenager LOVED him growing up and insisted his brothers had to have Bill! lol).  Makes science totally fun.  This show is awesome :) (but no,  I did not pay that much $$ for it!! It came to me by another road :P)

230:  Frodo goes WOOP!  as I tell him that yes, he can finally play Minecraft while I go and get his brothers from school lol!

250:  Back from the school run, homework (reading eggs & mathletics plus take home readers) for the school goers.  Frodo usually gets to choose a book to read on his own but today is going to use Google Translate to get caught up on the first two weeks of Spanish that he missed when our car was in the car morgue.

300:  Study time for me :)  I'm starting a distance program at USQ and my intro pack arrived today :D  Little schoolers did their homework.

400:  Started  dinner (silverside & roast veggies, OM NOM NOM hehe) .. kids played on the computers while we cooked.

500:  Dinner time for the hobbit household.. a little Global Village on tele after.

530: onward.. insanity ensues as Merry is incredibly crabby and doesn't want to go to the toilet *sigh*

600pm:  I need coffee.... with bailey's if I can get it lol.

645:  children off to bed to read,  they don't actually go to sleep for at least 45minutes... but they enjoy having reading time before bed... and I enjoy the peace & quiet, such as it is! lol

It's only 7pm, and I won't get to bed until at least 10pm (ha, if I'm lucky)  But the rest of the evening consists of reminding the boys they are going to SLEEP (they seem to forget frequently lol), cleaning up after dinner, folding laundry that i washed & dried earlier in the day, and finally blobbing out with my hunny who has scored a day off work tomorrow (and can stay up later than the kids for a change hehe)


I hope you have enjoyed a peek at our somewhat boring home schooling day!